ADHD Coaching:
Welcome to my site. If you are here means, probably you are searching for something new. Would like to create a change, make your life easier, calmer, less stressed happier, or more successful? You might be fed up with your internal dialogue, which most ADHD-ers also have:
- I am not good enough!
- I am a failure!
- I cannot finish anything!
- I messed up my entire life!
- I cannot cope!
- It is too much pressure!
- Everyone else can handle it.
- I am an idiot!
- I am completely disorganised.
- ‘I cannot plan.’
- Just want everything to stop!
Tell me about your thoughts: the thoughts in your head like a nice quiet Cumbria country road or an eight-line motorway in New York? When you wake up in the morning, your head is quiet, nothing is going on, and you are just fine and gently waking up. Or do you have an overwhelming to-do list, and everything is moving at 100 miles/hour? You are already late from thing, with things to things. Or you are absolutely grumpy, moody, lethargic. It takes hours to come around and feel that you can function. If some of these statements or questions resonate with you, I like to invite you to explore your thoughts, feelings and internal experiences, raise your awareness, and learn to manage them.
The way I see ADHD
I believe ADHD is a neurodiverse condition. The nervous system and the brain are wired differently from the neurotypical brain. There is no problem with that.
The cause of the issue is our society, which is designed for a neurotypical brain. Therefore, by the time a child grows up in our world, often is misinterpreted by society, and caretakers in multiple ways. This can create beliefs internally such as: ‘I am not good enough’ or ‘Something is wrong with me’ or ‘I don’t fit in anyway’ .
How do I work with ADHD?
I separate the psychological side of issues from neurological issues.
Working together I would like to find out how you think, what is going on in your head, how you feel or sense things, and what makes you upset, frustrated, angry, or overwhelmed. Once we understand you better, we can look at how to manage your feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, learn about techniques, and manage yourself in everyday challenges.
I also check your psychological history, and internalised messages, your beliefs about yourself, others, and the world. We learn to look at past events, and messages through the lens of neurodiversity. This helps to understand what you might needed at the time but didn’t receive. So, in the present you learn to sooth yourself, and look after yourself in multiple ways and change old messages.
Short-term work–coaching style – where we focus on psychoeducation of ADHD, understanding the sensory triggers, emotional meltdowns, and learning to calm the mind and balance your energy. Become empowered and learn to manage your life
ADHD coaching is often a short-term maximum 10-15 session work.
- Masking
- Motivation
- Procrastination
- Time management
- Organisation
- Critical internal dialogue
- Self-regulation
- And your own topics